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The message that came to me the other evening was related to really being present. Being present has a new Age ring to it. In the Buddhist context, being present or being mindful often refers to becoming aware of the world around us while also understanding what is occuring in our internal world. This awareness or mindfullness is often achieved through exercises in meditation.
I'm not writing this to advocate Buddhism. Rather the need we all have in this loud, mean world we live in to turn down the volume. I grew up in a house where I always had access to television. That didn't mean I was zoned out in front of it, but it was a comfort to me. Like meatloaf and macaroni and cheese. When I grew up and lived alone, sometimes I just had it on in the background as a comfort. The older I get, the more I seek quiet. In those quiet moments, sometimes we receive a message we need to hear.
Be present.
In these days when you can't even go to the bathroom without hearing, 'Ma-ma!" uttered ten times; or the endless laundry; or Happy Meal toys littering the living room, or whatever annoyance of parenthood you find yourself- Be present. Get off Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and play a game with your kids. Turn off that edited version of someone else's reality, and have a conversation with your daughter or son before their lives get too busy to talk with mom. Be present. Today, some women have a craft room and their spouse has a man cave. Leave your separate corners of the house and reconnect. Be present.
Somedays I feel like I'm just going through mindless motions of my daily routine of cleaning, cooking, waiting in a car line, and refilling glasses of juice and milk. I take for granted how quickly this season of my life will change as my kids age. It won't be the big trip or the expensive toy they just have to have that will stand out in their minds, it will be the sweet (seemingly insignificant) moments in which we bond with and nuture one another.